Friendship with boundaries a new necessity

We have all grown up learning a true friendship is where we have no boundaries of any sorts between two friends. We have concepts like Bros before hoes and BFFS, just re-enforcing this belief. While this is an ideal friendship there is a new kind of friendship in the block and we should all give way to it.

When we talk about friendship with boundaries we are talking about certain limitations that are agreed upon by both parties of a great understanding friendship.

I have been lucky enough to have one of the best friends throughout my life time. I treasure each one of them, even the ones that are now estranged. I have also been fortunate enough to have experienced some true companionship with great individuals I have lived with.

During this companionship that required me to share the house or room with other individual I was adamant about some ground rules. I was written off saying I was being rigid, so I tried to let go of these ground rules. But it led in some real bad times of miscommunication and passive aggressiveness.

I have once again got the chance to share my accommodation with another wonderful human. To my surprise she is much more adamant than I once was, about the ground rules. While it was very hard to take in at first. I think we have come to terms with it and there is nothing more beautiful than the understanding we share currently. Whether it is about who goes in for the shower first, who takes how much time, to the money we pay or owe each other. We have some set ground rules about everything. And that leaves no room for any sort of miscommunication or resentments of unspoken words.

We are very outspoken when it comes to our opinion about anything and everything, even each other. We are very different but we don’t let our differences over shadow our relationship neither do we let it get suppressed under the pressures of our friendship. It is very easy to ignore our individualism when we meet new people in the need to be accepted, but this great human and I, have held on to our individualism like our precious treasure of great friendship.

We mistake friendship to be ‘taken for granted’ but it’s about how we manage to reach a common ground embracing each other’s differences.